Theory behind.. Shopping in Malls

It was weekend and I was checking with my friends about their plans for the weekend, many of them gave me the usual answer “Sleeping”, some said they are going for some tour while some of them told me about their plans for movies and shopping..

Now a days shopping has become a means to spend time for the urban population. Shopping is really good, fun and relaxing if you have good company to do shopping. Shopping has become famous in many major cities because the urban population has lot of money to spend and the cities have many attractive malls to make people to shell out money to spend.

Generally shopping is just a reason for spending time over weekends with friends and family in huge shopping malls. The shopping malls are equipped with all the things that a person needs, so that he can spend his time at leisure.

The designers who design shopping malls keep in mind that the mall should be place that helps a stressed person to relax, unwind and get recharged and also it should bring profit to the people who have shops in the malls and hence today’s shopping malls boasts of having all the facilities from Good parking space, Centralized air-conditioning , Lots of Food joints for the visitors to eat, Movie theatres for entertaining the folks who visit the mall, Gaming zones to all many different shops which sells all the different kinds of goods to the public. Its because of many such facilities the malls have become one of the major attractions in the city.

So, if a person visits the mall in the morning with family he can spend his time starting with a movie in one of the movie houses in the mall, then having lunch in one of the favorite restaurants in the mall, spending the late afternoon by doing some window shopping or actual shopping among many shops in the mall, the evening again by having some snacks in any of the food courts in the mall and then playing some games in the game alley, lastly coming back home by having some good time over the weekend to get ready for the busy and hectic week ahead.

To sum up, malls give a over all relaxation for the person to recharge himself or herself for the coming week ahead with an affordable cost and lots of happiness.

Broadness in your thoughts…

India is a country of many culture and many religion. The fact that we are in 21 century hardly reflects in the thoughts of Indians, We might have won lot of laurels in all the fields but we still are far and far behind when it comes to the way we THINK.

Thinking!!! Its not a science to learn or master you can only tune your thinking by practicing it. Every human being is blessed with the power to think. The thinking process starts before the child can come out of the womb of its mother. The process develops with the development of the brain in the child. The thinking process is always learning process. You have to think before you do anything, if you don’t think in the right direction then the consequences could be catastrophic or devastating.

How do we get to know what we think and conclude is right? This is the question that every reader would be asking to himself or herself. To answer this I say “Start Thinking”. The answer is quite simple.. our thinking process works like a Database which stores the right answer and it does it by getting the right answer out or many options. But, if we carefully observe the thinking process we can relate it to the knockout football series or any knock out game. Out of the many options that we have, we start knocking out the unwanted choices until we encounter just two of them and lastly we knock out one and declare one as the ultimate winner. This Knockout technique works out well when we have facts to prove. For example if we are working out a mathematical problem of finding out the answer of a multiple choice question.

The Knockout technique works fine when we are asked to think and make decisions on problems which is supported by facts. But the problems that we encounter in our lives cannot be always solved by the Knockout technique.

The greatest problems in ones life is not the technical or mathematical problems but it’s the social, personal and emotional problems. If we question ourselves we think that we are the only person on this earth who has lot of problems. We also conclude that God has chosen only 'ME' to experience all the difficulties in life. This is not right because we hardly know the problems with fellow individuals. Every human being in this world has problem and its these problems that will challenge to keep him going in life..

• As a baby the first problem is to walk, talk and make decisions as to what to put in mouth and what not to put.
• As a kid to compete with the fellow students and get a good position in the class.
• As a Teen to decide on what academics to choose to study further and take decisions about his\her future.
• As a professional to work well and prove himself\herself to their boss.

To take decisions on all these, the person has to think well before and he has to have the know how of what is right? and what is not right?

The knowledge of what is right and what is wrong is sowed by experience, learning and teachings given by parents and teachers. Everybody’s parents and teachers teach their kids what they know along with what they learnt through their experience.

Now to highlight the topic of the way INDIANS think. In India, children stay with their parents. The children get seperated from their parents only if they have to leave the town for some reasons or if they get married. A girl stay with her parents till she is married and once she is married she will stay with her husband where as a guy can stay all his life with his parents if he is not moving out of the city.

Our parents teach all the things but, when it comes to relationship with oppostie sexs, then most parents in India think that it is not safe for their children to mingle with opposite sex, they use their experience and knowledge to take decisions about their kids but they forget that the world is changing the generations are different, what was right during their time may not be the same way when it comes to their kid. It is during this phase of life, both the child and the parent should actively involve to mend their future. It is in this phase of child’s development that their parents should talk and behave with their kids like friends and respect them. The parents should not think that their son or daughter is still a kid and doesn’t know any thing, instead they should give their child the respect they need and also make them aware of their responsibilities by giving them responsibilities. In return the child should respect their parents for their decisions and should be very polite to them.

If such a thing happens then the broadness of thoughts will be established, the child should learn the art of forgiving, the art of thinking broad and not cheap, the method of keeping himself or herself calm and cool in most of the situations, the humbleness of being polite to everybody no matter if it’s a living or a non living thing and to show and express the beautiful gift of God LOVE..

Love is not easy to express, but we must cultivate to express our love towards others. Please be very careful in expressing love towards others, you must study the person carefully before you show your love to them. The other person should have the quality of politeness, broadness in thoughts and the awareness to value the love you show. The sentenses like "It's really great to talk to you" , "I will be missing you", "Please be in touch with me" etc., might have different effect on the person to whom you are talking to. Please be very careful and understand the person thoroughly before you say such words. Never ever use some delicate words for fun unless you dont know about the person for whom you are using it.

Lastly, the way to get\find happiness is to spread happiness and be happy. We can spread happiness by being polite, humble, thinking broad and the most important of it all by spreading and showing LOVE… and if we do this we will be happy.

To start with…

I love you all readers who read this article… thanks for your time and best wishes for your endeavors.

Love, attraction and infatuation …

Valentines day is nearing so I thought I can share some of my thoughts about the theme for which its celebrated.

The dictionary meaning of all these words are as follows…

LOVE: Have a great affection or liking for
ATTRACTION: The quality of arousing interest; being attractive or something that attracts
INFATUATION: Temporary love of an adolescent

Although the dictionary meaning is quite simple, its not so easy for us to understand it. These three words express more of an emotional experience than the simple meaning which is told above. Lets see them one by one ….

Love: This whole world of Literature is dependant on this, if this word was not there in English then English literature would not have been as it is today. From Shakespeare era to the modern poets everybody uses this word. The filming industry (Hollywood and Bollywood) is making good profits each year by releasing new blockbusters because of this word LOVE. The whole of mankind is alive, happy and enjoying because of LOVE also mankind is waging war among themselves because of the same LOVE.

So what’s LOVE all about?

Love is a selfless feeling, a belief, an impression which no one can change within us. Its like an uninterrupted flow which is always pure. People who envy our love try to make the flow impure by polluting our beliefs with unwanted pollutants but if we keep our mind and will strong then nobody can shake the foundation of our belief and our love will always be pure. True Love is very difficult to get and also to give. Very few people are privileged with true love from their loved ones. Love cannot be given under any compulsion or bondage, it’s a feeling and it will automatically flow once your mind and heart agrees to do so.

People who show love should also express it then only the purpose is achieved. Love can be reached and felt only if one shows and the other acknowledge that Love has reached him or her.

ATTRACTION: This is not so complex feeling as that of love, attraction is like a flash of the camera. It’s a common feeling among all living beings, the sunflower gets attracted to the sun. The bees gets attracted to the beautiful rose. Attraction is more like a small chemical reaction in the brain for some external stimulus. Guys get attracted to beautiful girls and similarly girls gets attracted to handsome guys. Human beings gets attracted to non living things too like many girls getting attracted to their soft toys (The famous Teddy bear, the Tweety bird) and on the other hand guys getting attracted to the newest tech stuffs like the I-phone, the new sedan or the new bike in the market.

The state of attraction is just momentary and is short lived. As time ripens the attraction also changes. As a young kid, toys are its major attraction, as a teenage boy, bicycle, motorcycle are the major attraction and as a man, job, social status and good name and fame are the attraction.

If LOVE is considered as the finish line Attraction is the starting point of it..

INFATUATION: This has nothing to do with either LOVE or Attraction. Infatuation is a different feeling altogether. As the baby moves up along the ladder of life it is shaped by its parents, teachers and environment. Once the baby become adult and its secondary sexual characters (like growth of beard and mustache in the case of guys and puberty in case of girls) start to become visible then infatuation will also be visible. During this phase of life a lot of hormonal changes would be taking place in the body and these changes would lead to infatuation among individuals. Its this phase in ones life that a person has to be very careful about because the decisions taken during this phase of life would decide what you will be in future. It is at this stage when kids at home start to speak against their parents and they tend to explore more as they are more curious and want to do things differently and not follow the foot steps of elders.

Generally during this phase kids in college will start to date and mingle with opposite sex and try to explore more and know more, its during this phase these people might take wrong decisions in life if they don’t have proper guidance from elders and their well wishers. In general people who are in this stage should be extra careful about the decisions they take.


In short if LOVE is the finish line, ATTRACTION is the Starting point then INFATUATION is the shortcut and as everybody knows shortcut won't lead to success - LOVE.