Broadness in your thoughts…

India is a country of many culture and many religion. The fact that we are in 21 century hardly reflects in the thoughts of Indians, We might have won lot of laurels in all the fields but we still are far and far behind when it comes to the way we THINK.

Thinking!!! Its not a science to learn or master you can only tune your thinking by practicing it. Every human being is blessed with the power to think. The thinking process starts before the child can come out of the womb of its mother. The process develops with the development of the brain in the child. The thinking process is always learning process. You have to think before you do anything, if you don’t think in the right direction then the consequences could be catastrophic or devastating.

How do we get to know what we think and conclude is right? This is the question that every reader would be asking to himself or herself. To answer this I say “Start Thinking”. The answer is quite simple.. our thinking process works like a Database which stores the right answer and it does it by getting the right answer out or many options. But, if we carefully observe the thinking process we can relate it to the knockout football series or any knock out game. Out of the many options that we have, we start knocking out the unwanted choices until we encounter just two of them and lastly we knock out one and declare one as the ultimate winner. This Knockout technique works out well when we have facts to prove. For example if we are working out a mathematical problem of finding out the answer of a multiple choice question.

The Knockout technique works fine when we are asked to think and make decisions on problems which is supported by facts. But the problems that we encounter in our lives cannot be always solved by the Knockout technique.

The greatest problems in ones life is not the technical or mathematical problems but it’s the social, personal and emotional problems. If we question ourselves we think that we are the only person on this earth who has lot of problems. We also conclude that God has chosen only 'ME' to experience all the difficulties in life. This is not right because we hardly know the problems with fellow individuals. Every human being in this world has problem and its these problems that will challenge to keep him going in life..

• As a baby the first problem is to walk, talk and make decisions as to what to put in mouth and what not to put.
• As a kid to compete with the fellow students and get a good position in the class.
• As a Teen to decide on what academics to choose to study further and take decisions about his\her future.
• As a professional to work well and prove himself\herself to their boss.

To take decisions on all these, the person has to think well before and he has to have the know how of what is right? and what is not right?

The knowledge of what is right and what is wrong is sowed by experience, learning and teachings given by parents and teachers. Everybody’s parents and teachers teach their kids what they know along with what they learnt through their experience.

Now to highlight the topic of the way INDIANS think. In India, children stay with their parents. The children get seperated from their parents only if they have to leave the town for some reasons or if they get married. A girl stay with her parents till she is married and once she is married she will stay with her husband where as a guy can stay all his life with his parents if he is not moving out of the city.

Our parents teach all the things but, when it comes to relationship with oppostie sexs, then most parents in India think that it is not safe for their children to mingle with opposite sex, they use their experience and knowledge to take decisions about their kids but they forget that the world is changing the generations are different, what was right during their time may not be the same way when it comes to their kid. It is during this phase of life, both the child and the parent should actively involve to mend their future. It is in this phase of child’s development that their parents should talk and behave with their kids like friends and respect them. The parents should not think that their son or daughter is still a kid and doesn’t know any thing, instead they should give their child the respect they need and also make them aware of their responsibilities by giving them responsibilities. In return the child should respect their parents for their decisions and should be very polite to them.

If such a thing happens then the broadness of thoughts will be established, the child should learn the art of forgiving, the art of thinking broad and not cheap, the method of keeping himself or herself calm and cool in most of the situations, the humbleness of being polite to everybody no matter if it’s a living or a non living thing and to show and express the beautiful gift of God LOVE..

Love is not easy to express, but we must cultivate to express our love towards others. Please be very careful in expressing love towards others, you must study the person carefully before you show your love to them. The other person should have the quality of politeness, broadness in thoughts and the awareness to value the love you show. The sentenses like "It's really great to talk to you" , "I will be missing you", "Please be in touch with me" etc., might have different effect on the person to whom you are talking to. Please be very careful and understand the person thoroughly before you say such words. Never ever use some delicate words for fun unless you dont know about the person for whom you are using it.

Lastly, the way to get\find happiness is to spread happiness and be happy. We can spread happiness by being polite, humble, thinking broad and the most important of it all by spreading and showing LOVE… and if we do this we will be happy.

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I love you all readers who read this article… thanks for your time and best wishes for your endeavors.